So, recently, there’s been a lot of talk regarding weaves and how guys feel about it. And to be honest, I wasn’t really planning on writing on this topic but as I lay in my bed I thought to myself ‘why not?’
MY first question to many guys is, what do you call weave? Is it a sew in, braids, tracks, clip ins…what? Because different people call things different. Moreover I am just a tad bit confused because last time I checked, there are actually man weaves, so why you complaining. So, I once asked a guy if he would never give his girlfriend or even wife, money for weave or to do her hair and he said no. And to be honest, I don’t have a problem with that. You are not my daddy to be giving me money to do things that I want to do, or for me to having to be going to you to ask you for money. Independence is key in my eyes and so I should not HAVE to be ASKING you for anything.
Another thing is, a good amount of males seem to have the misconception that once you wear weave, that means you have no hair on your head… Now if I have ever heard any garbage before this would be it. Females do not necessarily have to have no hair on their head for them to WANT to wear weave, extensions, whatever. They wear it because they want to. Because they want their hair to grow, because they do not want to have to deal with the hassle of combing it and constantly maintaining it every day. Why does me wearing weave affect you so much. That is my true question. Why is it that by me wanting to put something on my head it so heavily affects you. Why is it that you think it is ok to say ‘she wear weave so I doh want her’. Like I honestly do not get it and would love someone to kindly explain it to me. I am in no way saying you are not allowed a preference but why do you hate it so much? And it’s not until you’ve gotten so close and touched some girls’ hair will you guys realise that there are some really good weaves and wigs out there.
Let us not even bring up that whole ‘it deceives’ thing. Because just no. Yes, I wanna deceive you, I want you to question if the hair on my head is real, that is how good it should look. That stiff and stink weave/look is not cute and that I do not agree with. However, you don’t see me going around saying that beards are deceitful and it makes some guys look semi decent and others look life cruffs do you? No. so do not tell me about the hair on my head, mine or not. Unless it looks like shit, I do not wanna know. I am not saying it is healthy for someone to live in weaves alone or wigs because your hair does need to breathe every now and then but the stigma attached to it has to go. In a year like 2016 where people are becoming increasingly independent and where man weaves are an actual thing, people need to get over girls wearing weaves and wigs. And if you think that just because a girl’s hair looks natural it is, you’re just as sadly mistaken because they have ‘natural hair weaves and wigs’ as well. So sit there thinking, oh I am gonna get a girl with natural hair…lol.
One last thing before I end, when you guys say ‘I want a girl with natural hair’ is that just your preference or do you honestly think she’ll not be high maintenance. Because if so you are sadly mistaken. In a time where it is now the new trend to go back natural and rock your ‘natural hair’ more and more it is increasingly hard to maintain. Natural hair is one of, if not the hardest hair to maintain and so that whole low maintenance thing just might be bullshit….just saying. A girl’s hair does not determine whether she’s high maintenance. Everyone is high maintenance it just depends on how you look at it. Financially, emotionally, either way, you require constant attention or need something at all times.
Now I think I’ve done quite a bit of ranting so I’ll end this here but do think about the reasons you don’t like something on ALL females or even males and say to yourself, is that really what matters? Especially when you automatically block them out because of that and therefore not even get to really know them.