So,
recently, there’s been a lot of talk regarding weaves and how guys feel about
it. And to be honest, I wasn’t really planning on writing on this topic but as
I lay in my bed I thought to myself ‘why not?’
MY first question to many guys is,
what do you call weave? Is it a sew in, braids, tracks, clip ins…what? Because
different people call things different. Moreover I am just a tad bit confused
because last time I checked, there are actually man weaves, so why you
complaining. So, I once asked a guy if he would never give his girlfriend or
even wife, money for weave or to do her hair and he said no. And to be honest,
I don’t have a problem with that. You are not my daddy to be giving me money to
do things that I want to do, or for me to having to be going to you to ask you
for money. Independence is key in my eyes and so I should not HAVE to be ASKING
you for anything.
Another thing is, a good amount of
males seem to have the misconception that once you wear weave, that means you
have no hair on your head… Now if I have ever heard any garbage before this
would be it. Females do not necessarily have to have no hair on their head for
them to WANT to wear weave, extensions, whatever. They wear it because they
want to. Because they want their hair to grow, because they do not want to have
to deal with the hassle of combing it and constantly maintaining it every day. Why
does me wearing weave affect you so much. That is my true question. Why is it
that by me wanting to put something on my head it so heavily affects you. Why
is it that you think it is ok to say ‘she wear weave so I doh want her’. Like I
honestly do not get it and would love someone to kindly explain it to me. I am
in no way saying you are not allowed a preference but why do you hate it so much?
And it’s not until you’ve gotten so close and touched some girls’ hair will you
guys realise that there are some really good weaves and wigs out there.
Let us not even bring up that whole ‘it
deceives’ thing. Because just no. Yes, I wanna deceive you, I want you to
question if the hair on my head is real, that is how good it should look. That
stiff and stink weave/look is not cute and that I do not agree with. However, you
don’t see me going around saying that beards are deceitful and it makes some
guys look semi decent and others look life cruffs do you? No. so do not tell me
about the hair on my head, mine or not. Unless it looks like shit, I do not
wanna know. I am not saying it is healthy for someone to live in weaves alone
or wigs because your hair does need to breathe every now and then but the
stigma attached to it has to go. In a year like 2016 where people are becoming
increasingly independent and where man weaves are an actual thing, people need
to get over girls wearing weaves and wigs. And if you think that just because a
girl’s hair looks natural it is, you’re just as sadly mistaken because they
have ‘natural hair weaves and wigs’ as well. So sit there thinking, oh I am
gonna get a girl with natural hair…lol.
One last thing before I end, when you
guys say ‘I want a girl with natural hair’ is that just your preference or do
you honestly think she’ll not be high maintenance. Because if so you are sadly
mistaken. In a time where it is now the new trend to go back natural and rock
your ‘natural hair’ more and more it is increasingly hard to maintain. Natural hair
is one of, if not the hardest hair to maintain and so that whole low
maintenance thing just might be bullshit….just saying. A girl’s hair does not
determine whether she’s high maintenance. Everyone is high maintenance it just
depends on how you look at it. Financially, emotionally, either way, you
require constant attention or need something at all times.
Now I think
I’ve done quite a bit of ranting so I’ll end this here but do think about the
reasons you don’t like something on ALL females or even males and say to
yourself, is that really what matters? Especially when you automatically block
them out because of that and therefore not even get to really know them.
Xoxo
:)
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