Saturday, 16 April 2016

Fat vs Skinny

You know the drill, if there are any grammatical errors i apologise profusely, now enjoy...

Now, I am not going to even get into the technicality of this whole thing (what is fat? What is skinny? NO) but I thought I would add my two cents into the pot. So, I was on twitter the other day, as I am every day and a girl said something that brought something to my attention…if you’d like to say that. So she was talking about how people think that ‘skinny’ people do not get ‘skinny-shamed’ (you know like fat-shaming? My wording, not theirs). And I was just like she makes a very good point there. No one ever seems to think that skinny persons do not like being called skinny or being told how small they are. I’ll give them that, however, they kept going and then said something along the lines of them not seeing anyone in the media to match their body type and that’s when I drew the brakes and had to be like hol’ up. I refuse to believe that you think you can’t look at a tv, runway, magazine, anywhere really and say that there’s no one with your body type. (please to excuse my phrasing at this moment) Small boobs, flat stomach and small butt. You are telling me that while growing up you saw no one like that? Then you must have not been watching tv, looking at models, etc. Do not go there.

            As I remember it, while I was growing up, that is all I saw. Only since I have grown have I seen models of bigger sizes, persons with ‘curves’ as people like to say and more. I am not skinny, never was and probably never will be, and I have accepted that and have no problem. You say you are considered skinny and no matter how much you eat, you’ll never get bigger and that too is ok. We all just need to learn to accept what we are and who are and know that your body type does not define you as a person. However, at the same time, even though I agree with the fact that no one ever thinks about persons considered skinny not liking being called that, ‘fat’ people have still endured way more. For years they have been enduring the shame, the insults, the constant bullying, etc just because of their weight. Whether they were able to control it or not, no one ever thought to ask. I have literally heard ‘skinny’ persons say, no matter how much I eat I can’t gain weight. But have you ever heard someone ask a ‘fat’ person, is it that you have a hormonal imbalance? Have you tried to lose weight and no matter what you do it won’t go away? Do you want to lose the weight? Are you happy as you are? NO, at least not to my knowledge. And now we have reached a point in society where being bigger, is not such a bad thing.

            As long as you are healthy and happy, what is it really to anyone else? If you are happy and not healthy then it’s up to you and those close to you to help you to be better. ‘Skinny’ does not equal healthy and ‘fat’ does not equal unhealthy as is society’s thinking for the most part. AT the same time however, I have also realised that persons’ keep saying ‘a real woman has curves’. Let us also draw the brakes there. Who are you to decide that based off my body-shape I am a real woman? Especially when you know nothing about me. What is that really? A real woman I believe is not able to be properly defined because by saying she has to be strong, independent, etc, are you telling me that if I’m weak, I can’t be considered a real woman, if I like being dependent on someone else, I’m not a real woman. A woman is a female, a human if we want to go into species. And there are many different types. So let us not go to the whole curves= a real woman. No. You do not hear me saying a real man has defined muscles or a beard or anything of that sort.

            Slowly we’re reaching a point where we’re comfortable in our own skin, and though we still have a far way to go, we are on the path and that’s all that matters. Skinny, or fat, no matter what we are, we are all still beautiful in our own way and never you forget that



Friday, 15 April 2016

Weave or no weave

I apologise for any grammatical errors, i would say this was more on the side of a rant, but i'm not even really sure. Either way I do hope you enjoy it

So, recently, there’s been a lot of talk regarding weaves and how guys feel about it. And to be honest, I wasn’t really planning on writing on this topic but as I lay in my bed I thought to myself ‘why not?’

          MY first question to many guys is, what do you call weave? Is it a sew in, braids, tracks, clip ins…what? Because different people call things different. Moreover I am just a tad bit confused because last time I checked, there are actually man weaves, so why you complaining. So, I once asked a guy if he would never give his girlfriend or even wife, money for weave or to do her hair and he said no. And to be honest, I don’t have a problem with that. You are not my daddy to be giving me money to do things that I want to do, or for me to having to be going to you to ask you for money. Independence is key in my eyes and so I should not HAVE to be ASKING you for anything.

          Another thing is, a good amount of males seem to have the misconception that once you wear weave, that means you have no hair on your head… Now if I have ever heard any garbage before this would be it. Females do not necessarily have to have no hair on their head for them to WANT to wear weave, extensions, whatever. They wear it because they want to. Because they want their hair to grow, because they do not want to have to deal with the hassle of combing it and constantly maintaining it every day. Why does me wearing weave affect you so much. That is my true question. Why is it that by me wanting to put something on my head it so heavily affects you. Why is it that you think it is ok to say ‘she wear weave so I doh want her’. Like I honestly do not get it and would love someone to kindly explain it to me. I am in no way saying you are not allowed a preference but why do you hate it so much? And it’s not until you’ve gotten so close and touched some girls’ hair will you guys realise that there are some really good weaves and wigs out there.

          Let us not even bring up that whole ‘it deceives’ thing. Because just no. Yes, I wanna deceive you, I want you to question if the hair on my head is real, that is how good it should look. That stiff and stink weave/look is not cute and that I do not agree with. However, you don’t see me going around saying that beards are deceitful and it makes some guys look semi decent and others look life cruffs do you? No. so do not tell me about the hair on my head, mine or not. Unless it looks like shit, I do not wanna know. I am not saying it is healthy for someone to live in weaves alone or wigs because your hair does need to breathe every now and then but the stigma attached to it has to go. In a year like 2016 where people are becoming increasingly independent and where man weaves are an actual thing, people need to get over girls wearing weaves and wigs. And if you think that just because a girl’s hair looks natural it is, you’re just as sadly mistaken because they have ‘natural hair weaves and wigs’ as well. So sit there thinking, oh I am gonna get a girl with natural hair…lol.

          One last thing before I end, when you guys say ‘I want a girl with natural hair’ is that just your preference or do you honestly think she’ll not be high maintenance. Because if so you are sadly mistaken. In a time where it is now the new trend to go back natural and rock your ‘natural hair’ more and more it is increasingly hard to maintain. Natural hair is one of, if not the hardest hair to maintain and so that whole low maintenance thing just might be bullshit….just saying. A girl’s hair does not determine whether she’s high maintenance. Everyone is high maintenance it just depends on how you look at it. Financially, emotionally, either way, you require constant attention or need something at all times.

Now I think I’ve done quite a bit of ranting so I’ll end this here but do think about the reasons you don’t like something on ALL females or even males and say to yourself, is that really what matters? Especially when you automatically block them out because of that and therefore not even get to really know them.