I was watching this video
and it spoke to me on so many different levels. Sure I’m almost positive I’ve
done a post like this before but what’s stopping me from doing it again. In the
video these women talk about what it’s like to be a woman at night. And many
times I don’t think some guys take us seriously. And the funny thing is it’s
always the nice guys, or the ones that most time can never imagine this
happening because they’d never do it themselves. And for that, I am truly
grateful to know that there are still men around that don’t believe in things
like this happening, that it shouldn’t be happening. However, it does
As a female myself, walking ALONE at night is and forever will
be one of the most frightening things that you can do. To me it’s almost like
taking risk with your life. Why, some may ask. Because you never know what may
happen. Sure, we like to say we’re big and bad and we can take care of
ourselves. And for the most part, those of us that say we can, actually can.
But what happens when we encounter someone who is so much more physically
stronger than us or threatens us with a weapon. What next? No matter what we
may say at some point we are weaker. We might not like to admit or even refuse
but there comes a point where you have to acknowledge that we are not stronger
than some opponent is. And though some of us refuse to say it, others both
think it and say it. And many of those are men. Some who take great joy in
trying to hurt us or show their dominance over us and the way in which they go
about this is what is most frightening. That is what scares us. Not them
sitting down and trying to have a logical conversation, no. Them deciding that
it is there duty to sneak up on us and attack. That we are the more vulnerable
and so we’re easier to attack and get what they want. Whether it be money,
items of value or even sex, they decide that they must take it by force and what
easier way than to attack a woman who is physically weaker than I am and will
most likely not fight back.
As someone who does not live in the minds of those who choose
to do these acts, I honestly cannot say that this is what they think. This is
only what I think they would think. If that makes any sense to you. And so I
use this as my platform just to speak of this. Some say, you have to take
action and I say, that can only get you so far. I go to a university where I
stay on an all-female hall and before school was out for the year, we had a self-defence
lesson. Many of us were excited because they saw the necessity of this session
and we were able to have persons come in and teach us how to defend ourselves
when it came to certain situations. For that session, I was truly grateful but
after realised, that no matter what we are taught and how much it means to us
at the moment it is not until we are put in the situation where we’ll have to
use those skills that it truly matters. Many of us hope we’ll never have to,
and some don’t. But not all of us are as lucky. Up to last night I stepped out
for a few minutes to go buy something and while walking I heard someone behind
me and because I was alone, I started walking faster. To be honest with you I became
terrified and thought up every possible scenario in my head. I may have
overreacted, I don’t know. What I do know is that as a female, I feel more
vulnerable going out at night by myself. I can’t speak for males because I honestly
don’t know if they go through the same thing but guys always wonder, why girls
go to the bathroom together and never by themselves, well maybe that mentality
might add to it.
I’m not trying to paint women as weak here, I’m just trying to
shed some light on a certain situation, maybe I didn’t bring it across
effectively, maybe I did. I don’t know. I’m just typing as these thoughts come
along. I hope you were able to either get something from this or even feel like
you’re not alone when it comes to certain situations. Either way, I hope this
made a difference to someone.
Xoxo
:)
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